INTRODUCTION
Today I would like to consider the example of one of God's servants
of whom it can be said that he did love wisely and did love very
well, and yet in a sense he described himself as love's fool.
I would like to consider his example through what seems to me
to be one of the greatest love-letters ever written. It is a letter
that stuns me in terms of what it reveals of the beauty, power
and the emotional depths of the spirit that is filled with the
love of Christ. The person of whom I speak of is the apostle Paul,
and the letter is 2 Corinthians.
The implication is that some were saying that Paul's messages
were veiled and secretive. Paul responded:
2Co 1:17-19,23 Was I vacillating when I wanted to do this?
(Paul was accused of being indecisive) Do I make my plans
like a worldly man, ready to say Yes and No at once? (He was
accused of breaking his promises) 18 As surely as God is
faithful (Paul invoked yet another oath to testify to his integrity),
our word to you has not been Yes and No. 19 For the Son of God,
Jesus Christ, whom we preached among you, Silvanus and Timothy
and I, was not Yes and No; but in him it is always Yes.
He commended himself, it was claimed (Christ was likewise accused
- Jn 8:13):
He said one thing when present, but did another behind their backs:
And worst of all-he was boring to listen to:
The strength to confront sin.
Paul boasted about his conscience:
About his work for God:
We may have heard the term "love's fool" used to describe
someone who is swept up in the pleasant and powerful emotions
of being in love, and in the process disengages his or her brain.
Shakespeare's black general Othello was deceived into thinking
that his wife was being unfaithful, and in a fit of jealousy killed
her. When he learnt how he had been deceived he killed himself,
but just before he did he expressed his desire that he be remembered
as "one that loved not wisely, but too well", meaning
that he was passionate in his affections, vehement in his anger,
but lacking in wisdom to control them.
HOW PAUL WAS MISUNDERSTOOD
Let's first build up a picture of how Paul was perceived, at least
in part, by some of the Corinthians. He was called insincere,
one who didn't really mean what he said and wrote:
2Co 1:12 For our boast is this, the testimony of our conscience
that we have behaved in the world, and still more toward you,
with holiness and godly sincerity, not by earthly wisdom but by
the grace of God.
Paul was saying that he had a clean conscience. Did he say this
because some were accusing him of being insincere? This was an
on-going problem that Paul had to deal with as we see in his letters
to the Thessalonians:
1Th 2:1-6 For you yourselves know, brethren, that our
visit to you was not in vain; 2 but though we had already suffered
and been shamefully treated at Philippi, as you know, we had courage
in our God to declare to you the gospel of God in the face of
great opposition. 3 For our appeal does not spring from error
or uncleanness, nor is it made with guile; 4 but just as we have
been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak,
not to please men, but to please God who tests our hearts. 5
For we never used either words of flattery, as you know, or a
cloak for greed, as God is witness.
Paul invoked God as his witness to testify that he had not done
these things. He strongly denied that he had been deceitful or
insincere:
6 nor did we seek glory from men, whether from you or from others,
though we might have made demands as apostles of Christ.
Again, he invoked God as a witness that he had not used deceit
towards them.
2Co 11:31 The God and Father of the Lord Jesus, he who
is blessed for ever, knows that I do not lie.
2Co 1:13 For we write you nothing but what you can read
and understand; I hope you will understand fully.
Paul took these charges so seriously that he put himself under
yet another oath to refute them. This is the third time that Paul
has done this.
2Co 4:2-3 We have renounced disgraceful, underhanded ways;
we refuse to practice cunning or to tamper with God's word, but
by the open statement of the truth we would commend ourselves
to every man's conscience in the sight of God. 3 And even if our
gospel is veiled, it is veiled only to those who are perishing.
23 But I call God to witness against me-it was to spare you that
I refrained from coming to Corinth. (And he was accused of
avoiding them).
2Co 3:1 Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? (So
Paul had been accused of this on a couple of occasions) Or
do we need, as some do, letters of recommendation to you, or from
you?
He was beside himself-crazy (2Co 5:13; cf. Mk 3:21):
2Co 5:13 For if we are beside ourselves, it is for God;
if we are in our right mind, it is for you.
He was also thought of as a fool (2Co 11:1,16; 12:11):
2Co 11:16 I say again, let no one think me a fool. If
otherwise, at least receive me as a fool, that I also may boast
a little.
He was taking advantage of people with cunning:
2Co 7:2 Open your hearts to us; we have wronged no one,
we have corrupted no one, we have taken advantage of no one.
There must have been many false accusations going around about
Paul.
2Co 12:15-18 I will most gladly spend and be spent for
your souls. If I love you the more, am I to be loved the less?
16 But granting that I myself did not burden you, I was crafty,
you say, and got the better of you by guile.
So Paul was accused of using cunning and guile to trick them.
17 Did I take advantage of you through any of those whom I sent
to you? 18 I urged Titus to go, and sent the brother with him.
Did Titus take advantage of you? Did we not act in the same spirit?
Did we not take the same steps?
He had to defend himself against accusations of guile and manipulation.
2Co 10:1,10-11 I, Paul, myself entreat you, by the meekness
and gentleness of Christ-I who am humble when face to face with
you, but bold to you when I am away!
What else can we add to the list of Paul's misdemeanours?
10 For they say, "His letters are weighty and strong, but
his bodily presence is weak, and his speech of no account."
11 Let such people understand that what we say by letter when
absent, we do when present.
He boasted of his authority, and took too much on himself.
2Co 10:8,14 For even if I boast a little too much of our
authority, which the Lord gave for building you up and not for
destroying you, I shall not be put to shame.
So Paul was seen as a bit of a Genghis Khan-overly ambitious and
power-hungry.
14 For we are not overextending ourselves, as though we did not
reach you; we were the first to come all the way to you with the
gospel of Christ.
2Co 11:6 Even if I am unskilled in speaking, I am not
in knowledge; in every way we have made this plain to you in all
things.
So it seems that Paul was considered insincere, beguiling in his
words, indecisive, unreliable, a braggart, foolish, crazy, deceitful,
over-ambitious, power-hungry and dull. None of it was true.
But how would you feel towards a group of people who held you
in such high esteem?! I think parents struggle at times in the
face of such misunderstandings from their children. So what we
can learn from how Paul conducted himself in this regard could
be helpful to parents who are struggling similarly. If you were
Paul, what sort of letter would you write to the Corinthians in
response? Let's consider how Paul responded.
THE SUFFERING OF LOVE
The open expression of affection
Firstly, we see that Paul is a wonderful example of the suffering
required to truly love. In response to the criticism that he was
indecisive and unreliable in returning to them, Paul answered
from the heart:
2Co 2:1-4 For I made up my mind not to make you another
painful visit. 2 For if I cause you pain, who is there to make
me glad but the one whom I have pained? 3 And I wrote as I did,
so that when I came I might not suffer pain from those who should
have made me rejoice, for I felt sure of all of you, that my joy
would be the joy of you all.
Paul felt a need to postpone his visit to those he loved because
his presence might have caused both them and him more pain.
God also suffers in his love for his people.
Hos 11:8-9 "How can I give you up, Ephraim? How can
I hand you over, Israel? How can I make you like Admah? How can
I set you like Zeboiim? My heart churns within Me; My sympathy
is stirred. 9 I will not execute the fierceness of My anger; I
will not again destroy Ephraim. For I am God, and not man, the
Holy One in your midst; and I will not come with terror."
Back to 2 Corinthians.
2Co 2:4 For I wrote you out of much affliction and anguish
of heart and with many tears, not to cause you pain but to let
you know the abundant love that I have for you. (The Living
Bible: I didn't want to hurt you, but I had to show you how
very much I loved you and cared about what was happening to you).
Sometimes it cuts us to the core to have to correct someone we
really love. The thought of losing their love and friendship tears
at our heart. But this wrestling with such emotions is also an
expression of the depth of our love for them.
2Co 6:11-13 (NIV) We have spoken freely (frankly) to you,
Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you. 12 We are not
withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours
from us. 13 As a fair exchange-I speak as to my children-open
wide your hearts also.
Those to whom Paul was endeared were reluctant in their affections
towards him-and they were actually accusing him of being distant!
How often are we restricted in our affections towards our loved
ones? And yet here was a man who really was free.
2Co 7:2-4 Make room for us in your hearts.
Remember, this was Paul's response to a group of people who held
some uncomplementary view about him. What sort of man would say
this to someone else? You think about it: how would you feel
saying to someone, who misunderstood your good intentions, "Make
room for me in your heart! You may not think much of me, but
I think a lot of you".
We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have exploited
no one. 3 I do not say this to condemn you; I have said before
that you have such a place in our hearts to live together and
to die together. 4 I have great confidence in you; I take great
pride in you. I am greatly encouraged; in all our troubles my
joy knows no bounds.
Have you ever had someone praise you to the point where you felt
embarrassed? Look at the delight Paul expressed in these Corinthians.
2Co 11:7-11 Was it a sin for me to lower myself in order
to elevate you by preaching the gospel of God to you free of charge?
8 I robbed other churches (figuratively speaking) by receiving
support from them so as to serve you. 9 And when I was with you
and needed something, I was not a burden to anyone, for the brothers
who came from Macedonia supplied what I needed. I have kept myself
from being a burden to you in any way, and will continue to do
so. 10 As surely as the truth of Christ is in me, nobody in the
regions of Achaia will stop this boasting of mine. 11 Why? Because
I do not love you? God knows I do!
Again, Paul called upon God as his witness. Yet obviously his
example and love for them was misunderstood! How often do children
misunderstand the good motives of their parents? And how hurtful
that is to endure! But then also, do parents fail at times to
express real encouragement of and affection for their children?
We know that continual correction and no encouraging affection
crushes the spirit.
2Co 12:14-15 Now I am ready to visit you for the third
time, and I will not be a burden to you, because what I want is
not your possessions but you.
Again, imagine someone saying to you: "I'm coming to visit,
and what I want is you!" Talk about feeling wanted!
After all, children should not have to save up for their parents,
but parents for their children. 15 So I will very gladly spend
for you everything I have and expend myself as well. If I love
you more, will you love me less?
So Paul's overriding concern was not for how others perceived
him, but that they would do what was right.
2Co 13:7-9 Now we pray to God that you will not do anything
wrong. Not that people will see that we have stood the test but
that you will do what is right even though we may seem to have
failed.
8 For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the
truth. 9 We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong;
and our prayer is for your perfection.
Paul's concern was for their improvement, no matter what it was
costing him. In the face of disapproval and misunderstanding,
Paul had in his spirit this wonderful affection for the Corinthians,
one that was difficult to quench.
We also read that Paul had the courage to confront the problems
of the Corinthians and his own feelings for them.
2Co 7:6-9 But God, who comforts the downcast, comforted
us by the coming of Titus, 7 and not only by his coming but also
by the comfort you had given him. He told us about your longing
for me, your deep sorrow, your ardent concern for me, so that
my joy was greater than ever.
So, in spite of the troubles Paul had to confront, some or many
of the Corinthians also had a deep love for Paul, and conformation
of this gave the apostle no end of delight:
8 Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it.
Though I did regret it-I see that my letter hurt you, but only
for a little while-9 yet now I am happy, not because you were
made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For
you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in
any way by us.
After such lovely words, expressing his joy at their response
to his correction, he then had some quite cutting remarks to make:
2Co 11:4,19-20 For if someone comes to you and preaches
a Jesus other than the Jesus we preached, or if you receive a
different spirit from the one you received, or a different gospel
from the one you accepted, you put up with it easily enough.
What a put-down! I have to ask myself, "What sort of man
is this? His love is so overwhelming, and his concern and upset
at evil so uncompromising. What power must stir in his heart!"
19 You gladly put up with fools since you are so wise! 20 In
fact, you even put up with anyone who enslaves you or exploits
you or takes advantage of you or pushes himself forward or slaps
you in the face.
2Co 11:29 Who is weak, and I do not feel weak? Who is
led into sin, and I do not inwardly burn?
Talk about concern for others, and zeal against sin!
2Co 12:13 How were you inferior to the other churches,
except that I was never a burden to you? Forgive me this wrong!
Paul's love allowed him to express the deepest affections openly,
and at the same time the most cutting rebukes.
2Co 12:19-21 Have you been thinking all along that we
have been defending ourselves to you? We have been speaking in
the sight of God as those in Christ; and everything we do, dear
friends, is for your strengthening.
So even in the passionate defence he gave of his ministry, Paul
insisted that he was not motivated to justify himself, but was
acting for their well-being. He poured out his heart to them.
He was honest in both affection and disapproval. It was not cool
or sophisticated, and in the eyes of some makes him seem like
a fool. But such was his concern for their well-being.
20 For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want
you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear
that there may be quarrelling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions,
slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. 21 I am afraid that when
I come again my God will humble me before you, and I will be grieved
over many who have sinned earlier and have not repented of the
impurity, sexual sin (which of us still accommodate lustful
thoughts for movie stars, or people we see, or even associate
with?) and debauchery in which they have indulged.
Paul again told them he was coming to them. How he would act towards
them depended upon them:
2Co 13:1-4,10 This will be my third visit to you. "Every
matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses."
2 I already gave you a warning when I was with you the second
time. I now repeat it while absent: On my return I will not spare
those who sinned earlier or any of the others, 3 since you are
demanding proof that Christ is speaking through me. He is not
weak in dealing with you, but is powerful among you. 4 For to
be sure, he was crucified in weakness, yet he lives by God's power.
Likewise, we are weak in him, yet by God's power we will live
with him to serve you.
PAUL AND BOASTING
10 This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when
I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority-the authority
the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.
One of the words that Paul uses often in this letter is "boast"
and "boasting". How do you feel about people boasting?
When I was growing up, I had a friend who was not averse to blowing
his own trumpet. I, on the other hand, didn't have a lot of excess
wind, so I preferred to let other people blow my trumpet for me.
After all, the proverbs do say,
Prov 27:2 "Let another man praise you, and not your
own mouth."
However, there is more to understand about boasting, because there
is much boasting done by Paul in 2Corinthians.
Scripture tells us a number of things about boasting.
2Co 11:18 since many boast of worldly things, I too will
boast in men.
1Co 3:21 So let no one boast of men. For all things are
yours.
Jas 4:16 As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such
boasting is evil.
1Co 4:7 For who sees anything different in you? What have
you that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do
you boast as if it were not a gift?
1Co 1:29 so that no human being might boast in the presence
of God.
Ro 5:11 Not only so, but we also rejoice (boast) in God
through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received
our reconciliation.
Php 3:3 For we are the true circumcision, who worship
God in spirit, and glory (boast) in Christ Jesus, and put no confidence
in the flesh.
2Co 10:17 "Let him who boasts, boast of the Lord."
Gal 6:14 But far be it from me to glory (boast) except
in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has
been crucified to me, and I to the world.
However, in 2 Corinthians we read that Paul boasted of the Corinthians
greatly:
2Co 7:4 (NASB) Great is my confidence in you, great is
my boasting on your behalf; I am filled with comfort. I am overflowing
with joy in all our affliction.
He boasted of their responsiveness to his correction.
2Co 7:12-16 (NASB) So although I wrote to you it was not
for the sake of the offender, nor for the sake of the one offended,
but that your earnestness on our behalf might be made known to
you in the sight of God. 13 For this reason we have been comforted.
And besides our comfort, we rejoiced even much more for the joy
of Titus, because his spirit has been refreshed by you all. 14
For if in anything I have boasted to him about you, I was not
put to shame; but as we spoke all things to you in truth, so also
our boasting before Titus proved to be the truth. 15 And his affection
abounds all the more toward you, as he remembers the obedience
of you all, how you received him with fear and trembling. 16 I
rejoice that in everything I have confidence in you.
He boasted about their generosity, and wrote of his great confidence
in them:
2Co 8:24 (NASB) Therefore openly before the churches show
them the proof of your love and of our reason for boasting about
you.
What pride Paul had in these Corinthians!
2Co 9:3-4 (NASB) But I have sent the brethren, that our
boasting about you may not be made empty in this case, that, as
I was saying, you may be prepared; 4 lest if any Macedonians come
with me and find you unprepared, we (not to speak of you) should
be put to shame by this confidence.
And he boasted of the Thessalonians:
1Th 2:19 (RSV) For what is our hope or joy or crown of
boasting before our Lord Jesus at his coming? Is it not you?
He boasted of them because the Spirit of Christ was being perfected
in them:
2Th 1:4 (RSV) Therefore we ourselves boast of you in
the churches of God for your steadfastness and faith in all your
persecutions and in the afflictions which you are enduring.
It seems to me that just as evil needs to be exposed and condemned,
likewise goodness must be wholeheartedly revealed and commended.
Consider the zeal with which Paul did both!
2Co 5:12 (RSV) We are not commending ourselves to you
again but giving you cause to be proud of us, so that you may
be able to answer those who pride (boast) themselves on a man's
position and not on his heart.
So we have to learn to recognise and value greatly the heart of
integrity and not be afraid to boast of it, to praise it. Perhaps
this is one way we can fulfil Hebrews 10:24: "
let us
consider how to stir one another up to love and good works".
What could be more stirring than someone boasting of your good
works and conscience? The Corinthians should have been proud of
and boasting about Paul's good works on their behalf.
2Co 12:11 I have become a fool in boasting; you have compelled
me (that is to justify himself). For I ought to have been commended
by you; for in nothing was I behind the most eminent apostles,
though I am nothing.
Paul was having to come across like a fool and defend himself.
As love's fool, he was having to remind them of his affection
for them and his good works on their behalf-which they seemed
to have so easily forgotten.
2Co 1:12 (RSV) For our boast is this, the testimony of
our conscience that we have behaved in the world, and still more
toward you, with holiness and godly sincerity, not by earthly
wisdom but by the grace of God.
And his hope was:
2Co 1:14 (NRSV) as you have already understood us in part-that
on the day of the Lord Jesus we are your boast even as you are
our boast.
About his not burdening the Corinthians:
2Co 11:10-13 As the truth of Christ is in me, no one shall
stop me from this boasting in the regions of Achaia. 11 Why? Because
I do not love you? God knows! 12 But what I do, I will also continue
to do, that I may cut off the opportunity from those who desire
an opportunity to be regarded just as we are in the things of
which they boast. 13 For such are false apostles, deceitful workers,
transforming themselves into apostles of Christ.
Paul had asked for no support from the Corinthians, and he would
continue to use this boast of his to undermine those who claimed
to be like Paul. He vehemently rejected anything in common with
them.
Ro 15:17 In Christ Jesus, then, I have reason to be proud
(to boast) of my work for God.
He boasted within the limits of the work that God had given him
to do, and he was proud of it:
2Co 10:8,13,15 For even if I boast a little too much of
our authority, which the Lord gave for building you up and not
for destroying you, I shall not be put to shame.
He acknowledged his sincerity (2Co 2:17), that he was the aroma
of Christ (2Co 2:15), his good courage (2Co 5:6,8), the love of
Christ in him (2Co 5:14), his adherence to the truth (2Co 4:2),
his knowledge (2Co 11:6), and he commended himself as God's servant
in a multitude of other ways:
13 But we will not boast beyond limit, but will keep to the limits
God has apportioned us, to reach even to you.
15 We do not boast beyond limit, in other men's labours; but
our hope is that as your faith increases, our field among you
may be greatly enlarged.
2Co 6:4-10 but as servants of God we commend ourselves
in every way: through great endurance, in afflictions, hardships,
calamities, 5 beatings, imprisonments, tumults, labours, watching,
hunger; 6 by purity, knowledge, forbearance, kindness, the Holy
Spirit, genuine love, 7 truthful speech, and the power of God;
with the weapons of righteousness for the right hand and for the
left; 8 in honour and dishonour, in ill repute and good repute.
We are treated as impostors, and yet are true; 9 as unknown, and
yet well known; as dying, and behold we live; as punished, and
yet not killed; 10 as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor,
yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing everything.
He also acknowledged them:
2Co 3:2 You yourselves are our letter of recommendation,
written on your hearts, to be known and read by all men.
And hoped they could acknowledge him in their conscience:
2Co 5:11 Therefore, knowing the fear of the Lord, we persuade
men; (without real fear of God, you cannot really teach the
truth) but what we are is known to God, and I hope it is known
also to your conscience.
STRONG WHEN WEAK
So what Paul really delighted in boasting about was Christ being
formed in them, and in him. That was his joy:
1Co 15:31 I protest, (I swear) brethren, by the boasting
in you, which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die daily.
Therefore, we are to boast in our trials (Rom 5:3), in our physical
weaknesses:
2Co 11:30 If I must boast, I will boast of the things
that show my weakness.
After praying for relief from a thorn in the flesh Paul received
this answer:
2Co 12:9-10 but he said to me, "My grace is sufficient
for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." I will
all the more gladly boast of my weaknesses, that the power of
Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then, I am
content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and
calamities; for when I am weak, then I am strong.
In our physical weaknesses, our difficulties, our sufferings,
our inability to change our outer circumstances, God is able to
make our spirits strong by the power of Christ, even though our
circumstances are weak. Paul was afflicted, but not crushed;
perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not feeling forsaken;
struck down, but not destroyed; dying, but manifesting life (2Co
4:7-10).
2Co 13:11-14 Finally, brethren, farewell. Become complete.
Be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God
of love and peace will be with you. 12 Greet one another with
a holy kiss. 13 All the saints greet you. 14 The grace of the
Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the
Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen.
May the same spirit that worked so powerfully in Paul also be
at work in us all!